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there are three different types of women in chongqing: the prostitute, the gold-digger, and the traditionalists.

1. the prostitute is........well, just that.

2. the gold-digger is the chinese woman who is out for a foreigner, no matter what they look like. they just want a foreign man who can buy them shit. also, maybe there is some sort of prestige to having a foreign boyfriend because it sets them apart from the millions of chinese women without. what i do not like about this scenario is most of these men are losers. that does not phase the gold-digger because he has money. when i am witness to this in a bar or club, it can become quite disgusting. these bum-ass fat, old geezers with these skinny little, young girls. it is a relationship that is headed toward the dark sea of unsatisfying, artificial happiness.

3. most women in this country, i would classify as traditional girls. they are nice, kind-hearted women just like women back home, but there is one difference. you cannot really date them. it is all the way or not at all. i mean, you can get to know them, but the physical part that comes along with dating is slim to none. if you want a little sensuality, well you had better expect on becoming their boyfriend for a long period of time. oh believe me, i am all for buying the cow, i have had my share of free milk, but i feel these traditionalists do not experience enough in the dating department. "hey, just because you had sex with that guy does not mean you need to marry him. i know, i know, he was your second, and you are almost 26. what in the world are you going to do! oh, no!" i am just saying that having intercourse with a man does not mean he is the one. honestly, what the fuck do i know? maybe it is a good thing to be conservative when it comes to the opposite sex. no one-nite stands, mistakes, less chance for pregnancy, disease. hopefully the man they marry does not turn out to be that cat strolling around the red-light district so he can experience another woman. in the future i know i will meet more men and women, hopefully having to revise some of these statements. i do not want to generalize and place women into these three categories, even though i just did that.

as for myself, well the whores are out. i know that would make a great story, but i cannot bring myself to paying for it. i guess it was the way i was raised.
gold-diggers. nope. that scene is phony and in many ways repulsive.
that leaves the old-fashioned chinese girl. of course that will not happen unless i meet one i am truly into; that may take a while. i could have a girlfriend, it is very easy to do so, and use her to better my chinese. but then i would feel bad when i dumped her after i became fluent. there is the fourth option of the foreign variety, but there could be another post dedicated solely to the dating scene for foreign women in china. actually, there is an entire blog for just that.

to the ten or so people who actually read the drivel i churn out, do not fret. i will begin to post something new every week so check back. do me a favor and give me some feedback. comments, what you want to know about, anything. it should be easy to leave your thoughts, and it will make for better writing on my end.

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